I love the movie Evan Almighty. It’s a cute family movie about sticking to your convictions, even when everyone thinks you're crazy. This scene perfectly sums up where I’m at. Let me know if you agree? Don’t worry it's short. I know you are busy…
After nine months of being nomads, with our lives and our dreams in a trailer. We have finally settled into a place we are happy to call home. We don't have an address. no street name, not even a plot number. This is where we live.
This pic, is the view from our driveway. We are off grid, which is amazing. We are eating out of the garden and load shedding aint no thang cos we are on solar! We do need help with maintaining this magical and bountiful property though. Its yield is generous. We hope to create work for many in the long run. There will also be some volunteer opportunities.
First lesson of the Kei (living in South Africa in general maybe?): nothing happens when you expect it to. There’s no rush in the Kei for anything. Ever. We have slowed right down. I mean right down. Right. Down. I can’t even begin to tell you how hard that is to do… I’ve been writing this since September! To be fair I have also been writing a novel, yes a NOVEL.
So, Stella, put your to do list away and BE. Can you feel my anxiety rising? I can also feel yours when I suggest to you that there is another way of living that is less about how MUCH you get done and have to earn to meet the rising cost of living and more about the QUALITY of what you are doing and WHO YOU ARE BEING.
D and I are slowly learning to lower expectations. That doesn’t mean lower our standards. It means questioning systems (or lack thereof) and learning the very ACTIVE art of patience.
I used to think patience was a passive thing. The kind of patience I've been learning is one that hums with activity and thrums with force. It is not passive AT ALL. It requires more of me than I think I can give sometimes. Again, do you have any idea how hard it is to do something very slowly, or even do nothing at all. Nothing. At. All. When everything in you just wants to FIX IT. It’s the kind of patience that you think you are learning about in Yin when you are holding a pose for a thousand years and you want to stab the teacher in the eye. That’s just four minutes. I’m realizing that this kind of patience spans years. Slowing down means asking for help. Do I have the humility for that?
YES!!! Please come and help!
How do we know that it's okay and normal and healthy to slow down and do less?
Because mother nature shows us this. The planet is crying out for it and has been for decades. Indigenous peoples have known this and scientists have warned us. Seasons change and so do we. We are intrinsically connected to the waxing and waning of the moon and the planet's CONSISTENT change of season. You can call me "woo-woo" but you know it's true. Sometimes that listlessness and underlying anxiety we feel is because it’s time to change and we are putting it off. I know. It's hard right? But if I can do it, so can you.
I was freaking out about something this morning and Denton asked me, 'What do you need right now?" Right now. Not tomorrow or next week. Right now. He didn't ask me what would make me ‘happy’. I have a sneaking suspicion that making happiness the point, is missing the point.
I am learning that building legacy, the kind of thing that will endure, the kind of thing that will survive my passing, the kind of thing you want to leave your children and their children, takes years to build. I want to leave it to your children, because I have
made a conscious choice not to have any. I want to leave a planet that is in a better condition and a society that is truly free and equal, that's what I want to leave your children. I know, mental, right? I don’t know if I have that kind of patience. But I won’t know if I don’t try. The world is not okay. And that’s okay.
Wisdom Paradox – living with less – gives you more. I try to remind myself of this daily, when my mind wants to solve ALL THE problems, while I encourage my peaches and cheer my mangoes on!
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